You know what sucks? being so used to misgendering that you regard someone simply acknowledging your pronouns as an act of kindness.
do you ever have second-hand obsessions
like one of your friends is super obsessed with a thing so whenever you see something about it you’re like “YES THIS THING” but you’re not the one obsessed with it. they are. you know very little about this thing and yet it still excites you because it excites your friend
Saying ace and aro are the same thing is like saying brown hair and brown eyes are the same thing.
Yes, they have some similarities.
Yes, some people have both.
But they’re very, very different. Neither is a prerequisite to the other. Neither is an umbrella term for the other. People can have one without the other.
They are different things.
If you casually use “tumblr” as a thinly-veiled euphemism to criticize or mock any kind of marginalized group then you’re, uh, wait here lemme check my notes here:
- A disappointment
- Not fun to be around
- Pitifully unfunny
- Orange juice
- Bread (wheat and white)
- Sorry you’re so boring I lost interest in insulting you and started writing my grocery list by accident
If a trans woman is telling you that a term you’re using is misgendering her and offending her, here’s how you properly argue against her:
- you don’t
- you are wrong
- you are misgendering her
- stop it
fun brain teaser for cis journalists: write an article about trans people without using the phrases “used to be a…” or “biologically”