Monday, September 22, 2014

uriemo:

people love talking about their “spirit animals” even though that it has constantly been stated that the term itself is cultural appropriation but when it comes to someone harmlessly wanting to identify w plants & animals people flip out and it’s weird all of the sudden #ok

kurgs:

skeletongrazed:

skeletongrazed:

what’s the difference between a dirty bus stop and a lobster with breast implants ?

one’s a crusty bus station and one’s a busty crustacean

#i’ve told this joke a million times and it NEVER fails

Men, I would like to give this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue, too. To date, I’ve seen my father’s role as a parent being valued less by society. I’ve seen young men suffering from illness, unable to ask for help for fear it will make them less of a man. I’ve seen men fragile and insecure by what constitutes male success. Men don’t have the benefits of equality, either. We don’t want to talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that they are. When they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence. If men don’t have to be aggressive, women won’t be compelled to be submissive. If men don’t need to control, women won’t have to be controlled. Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all see gender as a spectrum instead of two sets of opposing ideals. We should stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by who we are. We can all be freer and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom. I want men to take up this mantle so their daughters, sisters and mothers can be free from prejudice but also so their sons have permission to be vulnerable and human, too and in doing so, be a more true and complete version of themselves - Emma Watson for HeForShe UN campaign

Men, I would like to give this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue, too. To date, I’ve seen my father’s role as a parent being valued less by society. I’ve seen young men suffering from illness, unable to ask for help for fear it will make them less of a man. I’ve seen men fragile and insecure by what constitutes male success. Men don’t have the benefits of equality, either. We don’t want to talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that they are. When they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence. If men don’t have to be aggressive, women won’t be compelled to be submissive. If men don’t need to control, women won’t have to be controlled. Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all see gender as a spectrum instead of two sets of opposing ideals. We should stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by who we are. We can all be freer and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom. I want men to take up this mantle so their daughters, sisters and mothers can be free from prejudice but also so their sons have permission to be vulnerable and human, too and in doing so, be a more true and complete version of themselves - Emma Watson for HeForShe UN campaign

(Source: emccwatson)

beranyth:

ben-c:

msrmoony:

If you ever date an asexual person be sure to get the specifics of their asexuality because the level of comfort with physical contact is different for all of us.

as an asexual person, i’m a little confused as to why you think this only applies to us. this applies to all people. no matter who you date, their level of comfort with physical contact will vary, and whether they’re ace or not it’s your job to establish a comfort zone

pro tip: someone saying something specific about one type of group does not mean they are saying it isn’t true for anyone else

honing in on comfort levels and consent issues for asexual people specifically is not an announcement that you can do anything you want to to anyone else, or that they’re the only ones affected by a certain social attitude

"it’s bad for anyone" might be true on a large picture scale but when things are talked about on the broadest scale possible, erased and marginalized groups tend to be overlooked and forgotten about.  In this particular case, it’s an important discussion to note how asexual "visibility" efforts often try to paint a one-size-fits-all version of asexuality, with lines like "asexuals can have sex too" and "most aces like sex!" and so forth, to the point where a lot of ace people are pressured even by their own community to have sex whether they’re interested in it or not, especially if they haven’t ~proven they don’t like it~.  There’s an extreme overemphasis on how individual ace people "represent" the group as a whole and we’re pressured to fit whatever overall image we’re supposed to be rather than assert our own comfort levels.  

The asexual side of things is talked about a lot within ace circles themselves but the OP’s post is merely bringing that issue to the outside, encouraging allosexual partners to do their part by rejecting this “what asexuality is for everyone” idea (when wayyyyy too many times allo people with ace partners will say stuff like “well I heard most aces like sex, you don’t know until you try” stuff).  It’s lessening the pressure of “aces with partners will often have sex to make the other person happy!” and actually frames the allo partner as responsible for making sure the ace person is happy, too.

This is complex stuff and saying things as broad and nonspecific as “respect your partner’s comfort levels” might be fine and dandy by themselves but really doesnt do shit about any of this.  Most people will hear that and not think about ace people at all.

And again, I can’t say it enough times, talking about an issue that harms a specific group doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt anyone else.  Saying to treat people of that group with respect is not announcing a free-for-all on anyone else.  

God you literally said “I’m confused why you think this only applies to us” well you’re gonna be pretty damn confused since you kind of made that up 100% on your own.

Back home, the girls are not soft —
they pit peaches with their teeth,
drink sadness like they’re starving.

They always dance alone,
listen to songs with lyrics
about strawberry wine.

They blossom like beer bottles,
wear october on their shins,
split open, screaming —

a foreign rose
just aching
for a fight.

The Girls Back Home | d.a.s (via backshelfpoet)
thomas4th:

sputnikcentury:

Important insight from Mr. Elba.

PACIFIC RIM 2: DUCK PUNT

thomas4th:

sputnikcentury:

Important insight from Mr. Elba.

PACIFIC RIM 2: DUCK PUNT

When I was 8, I was confused about being called ‘bossy’ because I wanted to direct the plays that we would put on for our parents. But the boys were not. When at 14, I started to be sexualized by certain elements of the media, when at 15, my girlfriends started dropping out of their beloved sports teams, because they didn’t want to appear ‘muscle-y,’ when at 18, my males friends were unable to express their feelings, I decided that I was a feminist. And this seems uncomplicated to me. But my recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word. Emma Watson Gives Emotional, Powerful Speech at U.N. About Gender Inequality (via apsies)
Sunday, September 21, 2014

polysteverogers:

i support trans headcanons, but please diversify them

i’ve seen “wait but what if this character was a TRANS MAN like they have the same presentation and the consequences are minor but they’re TRANS” way too many times to be honest

give me muscly dmab characters that ID as genderfluid or as trans women

dfab trans characters who don’t bind

trans characters don’t have to experience dysphoria, just like trans people don’t have to experience dysphoria

give me characters who can easily afford gender affirming surgery but don’t want it

give me nuanced trans characters who are out in some social circles and not others

dannerzz:

my mom has been a cop for over 20 years and she is the one who constantly warns me about police aggression and young male cops and told me that if you’re ever alone on a rural road and a cop throws their lights on to put on your four ways and drive to the next gas station before stopping because so many cops are scum and it’s not worth the chance of getting hurt. the fact that SHE feels the need to tell me this shit scares me to death