people love talking about their “spirit animals” even though that it has constantly been stated that the term itself is cultural appropriation but when it comes to someone harmlessly wanting to identify w plants & animals people flip out and it’s weird all of the sudden #ok
what’s the difference between a dirty bus stop and a lobster with breast implants ?
one’s a crusty bus station and one’s a busty crustacean#i’ve told this joke a million times and it NEVER fails
If you ever date an asexual person be sure to get the specifics of their asexuality because the level of comfort with physical contact is different for all of us.
as an asexual person, i’m a little confused as to why you think this only applies to us. this applies to all people. no matter who you date, their level of comfort with physical contact will vary, and whether they’re ace or not it’s your job to establish a comfort zone
pro tip: someone saying something specific about one type of group does not mean they are saying it isn’t true for anyone else
honing in on comfort levels and consent issues for asexual people specifically is not an announcement that you can do anything you want to to anyone else, or that they’re the only ones affected by a certain social attitude
"it’s bad for anyone" might be true on a large picture scale but when things are talked about on the broadest scale possible, erased and marginalized groups tend to be overlooked and forgotten about. In this particular case, it’s an important discussion to note how asexual "visibility" efforts often try to paint a one-size-fits-all version of asexuality, with lines like "asexuals can have sex too" and "most aces like sex!" and so forth, to the point where a lot of ace people are pressured even by their own community to have sex whether they’re interested in it or not, especially if they haven’t ~proven they don’t like it~. There’s an extreme overemphasis on how individual ace people "represent" the group as a whole and we’re pressured to fit whatever overall image we’re supposed to be rather than assert our own comfort levels.
The asexual side of things is talked about a lot within ace circles themselves but the OP’s post is merely bringing that issue to the outside, encouraging allosexual partners to do their part by rejecting this “what asexuality is for everyone” idea (when wayyyyy too many times allo people with ace partners will say stuff like “well I heard most aces like sex, you don’t know until you try” stuff). It’s lessening the pressure of “aces with partners will often have sex to make the other person happy!” and actually frames the allo partner as responsible for making sure the ace person is happy, too.
This is complex stuff and saying things as broad and nonspecific as “respect your partner’s comfort levels” might be fine and dandy by themselves but really doesnt do shit about any of this. Most people will hear that and not think about ace people at all.
And again, I can’t say it enough times, talking about an issue that harms a specific group doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt anyone else. Saying to treat people of that group with respect is not announcing a free-for-all on anyone else.
God you literally said “I’m confused why you think this only applies to us” well you’re gonna be pretty damn confused since you kind of made that up 100% on your own.
Back home, the girls are not soft —
they pit peaches with their teeth,
drink sadness like they’re starving.
They always dance alone,
listen to songs with lyrics
about strawberry wine.
They blossom like beer bottles,
wear october on their shins,
split open, screaming —
a foreign rose
for a fight.
i support trans headcanons, but please diversify them
i’ve seen “wait but what if this character was a TRANS MAN like they have the same presentation and the consequences are minor but they’re TRANS” way too many times to be honest
give me muscly dmab characters that ID as genderfluid or as trans women
dfab trans characters who don’t bind
trans characters don’t have to experience dysphoria, just like trans people don’t have to experience dysphoria
give me characters who can easily afford gender affirming surgery but don’t want it
give me nuanced trans characters who are out in some social circles and not others
my mom has been a cop for over 20 years and she is the one who constantly warns me about police aggression and young male cops and told me that if you’re ever alone on a rural road and a cop throws their lights on to put on your four ways and drive to the next gas station before stopping because so many cops are scum and it’s not worth the chance of getting hurt. the fact that SHE feels the need to tell me this shit scares me to death